LESSON 28

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Attributes of a Leader

Part 4

 

2 Tim. 3:2-7,10  A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach; Not given to wine, no striker, not greedy of filthy lucre; but patient, not a brawler, not covetous; One that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity;  (For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?)  Not a novice, lest being lifted up with pride he fall into the condemnation of the devil. Moreover he must have a good report of them which are without; lest he fall into reproach and the snare of the devil. ...  And let these also first be proved; then let them use the office of a deacon, being [found] blameless.

 

XIII.  RULETH WELL HIS OWN HOUSE

 

God places our responsibilities in the family second only to our responsibilities in our covenant with Him.  God establishes the priority of the family above your job, above your ministry, above your anointing.  Too many ministers have forsaken their families for the sake of their ministry.

 

1Tim. 5:8  But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.

 

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You must take your proper role in your family to be a qualified leader. 

 

THE FAMILY UNIT IS THE FOUNDATION OF THE CHURCH.

 

Without a strong family unit you will never have a strong church.  Therefore a leader must be an example by having a strong family unit.  He must raise up his family in the fear of the Lord.  If you don't major on your family, you are disqualified for leadership. 

 

Eph. 6:4  And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

 

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XIV.  NOT A NOVICE

 

If you'll refer back to the study on developing character, you will see the failings of putting a novice into leadership.  Saul was anointed powerfully by God, but he was a novice and was not prepared to handle the anointing or position.

 

The Bible warns us to not put a novice into leadership, lest he be lifted up with pride.  If a novice is lifted up in leadership too quickly, he will almost always be filled with pride and he will fall into the condemnation (not the temptation) of the devil.

 

Prov. 16:18  Pride [goeth] before destruction, And a haughty spirit before a fall.

 

I Pet. 5:6  Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time.

 

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When a novice gets into a place of leadership too early, usually he is not able in his maturity level to handle authority over others and he begins to abuse that authority and take the right of authority that he doesn't have.  A novice rarely understands the boundaries of authority. 

 

In the study on character we discussed that character takes time to build.  So don't be in a rush; be PATIENT.  The young in the Lord, if they are promoted too fast, are prone to great failures.

In society and much of the Christian community, we are more attracted to gift and talent rather than character.  A novice will self destruct if correction does not take place. 

 

The higher the position of leadership, the greater the demand that is put on them to be spiritually mature.

 

XV.  GOOD REPORT OF THEM WITHOUT

 

A leader must be one with a spotless reputation.  How do people talk about you?  You must be known for your good works.  You can be the most anointed individual on the earth, but if your poor reputation hinders people from receiving your ministry, your anointing won't do anybody any good.

 

PEOPLE'S FAITH IS RELEASED TO RECEIVE ONLY IF THEY ACCEPT YOU AS A SERVANT OF GOD.

 

Mark 6:5-6  And He could there do no mighty work, save that He laid His hands upon a few sick folk, and healed [them].  And He marvelled because of their unbelief. And He went round about the villages, teaching.

 

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In Jesus' home town they wouldn't accept Him as a prophet of God and because of their unbelief He was unable to perform many miracles.  Although Jesus' lifestyle was beyond reproach there were those who would never accept Him as a servant of God, let alone the Son of God.

 

There will be people in your life that will never accept the work God has done in you, but your lifestyle should put their accusations to shame.

 

We must be very conscious of our actions, because how we act influences how people receive from us.  They will know your heart by your actions.  Your actions prove what is in your heart.

 

Everything you do in life, must be done to create the most conducive atmosphere for people to receive what you have to say.

 

The way you present yourself, dress, talk, act, will speak of your character.

 

Matt. 5:16  Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.

 

Titus 2:7  In all things showing thyself a pattern of good works: in doctrine [showing] uncorruptness, gravity, sincerity,

 

I Pet. 2:12  Having your conversation honest among the Gentiles: that, whereas they speak against you as evildoers, they may by [your] good works, which they shall behold, glorify God in the day of visitation.

 

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Below I list several areas where your good works should be shown before the world; so that the unsaved will see the Godly characteristics in you.

 

 1)  YOUR CONVERSATION

 

Phil. 1:27  Only let your conversation be as it becometh the gospel of Christ: that whether I come and see you, or else be absent, I may hear of your affairs, that ye stand fast in one spirit, with one mind striving together for the faith of the gospel;

 

I Tim. 4:12  Let no man despise thy youth; but be thou an example of the believers, in word, in conversation, in charity, in spirit, in faith, in purity.

 

Prov. 16:13  Righteous lips [are] the delight of kings; and they love him that speaketh right.

 

Eph. 4:29  Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but such as is good for edifying as the need may be, that it may give grace to them that hear.

 

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The spirit of the world says, "It doesn't matter how I live.  It doesn't matter how I look or how I speak.  People must judge me by my heart."  The Bible says that they will know your heart by what you speak.

 

Matt. 12:34  Ye offspring of vipers, how can ye, being evil, speak good things? For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh.

 

A good tree cannot produce bad fruit.

 

2)  YOUR JOB PERFORMANCE

 

Eph. 6:5-7  Servants, be obedient to them that are [your] masters according to the flesh, with fear and trembling, in singleness of your heart, as unto Christ;  Not with eyeservice, as men pleasure; but as the servants of Christ, doing the will of God from the heart;  With good will doing service, as to the Lord, and not to men.

 

Work as though Jesus Christ was the one standing over you.  Do your work as unto the Lord.  This means that you don't take extra long breaks; you don't come in late and try to get paid for full hours.  Don't be lazy and slothful. 

 

I Tim. 6:1  Let as many servants as are under the yoke count their own masters worthy of all honour, that the name of God and [his] doctrine be not blasphemed.

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You dishonor God's name when you say that you are a Christian and work like a slothful sluggard.

 

Titus 2:9-10  [Exhort] servants to be obedient unto their own masters, [and] to please [them] well in all [things]; not answering again;  Not purloining, but showing all good fidelity; that they may adorn the doctrine of God our Saviour in all things.

 

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If we were to work as hard as we are suppose to, businesses would want to hire Christians before anyone else.  We need to live in such a way that they will adore the doctrine of God as a result of our work habits.

 

     3)  IN LOVE AND CHARITY

 

Matt. 5:43-46  Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy neighbor, and hate thine enemy.  But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you; For if ye love them which love you, what reward have ye? Do not even the publicans the same?

 

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Love those that hate you and talk bad about you.  Don't talk bad about them or get mad at them, but love them.

 

REMEMBER...

    IT'S NOT WHO YOU SAY YOU ARE, IT'S WHO MEN SAY YOU ARE.

 

Matt. 16:13  When Jesus came into the coasts of Caesarea Philippi, He asked His disciples, saying, Whom do men say that I the Son of man am?

 

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XVI.  LET THESE ALSO FIRST BE PROVED

 

Every leader must be tested and proved over time to see what is really inside of them.  There are many character flaws that a good personality can hide.  Only time and close observation can see some of these flaws.

 

Also, when a person is proved, it establishes a sense of respect among those they work with.  Remember this statement...

 

 QUICK EXALTATION ALMOST ALWAYS LEADS TO SELF DESTRUCTION.

 

Deut. 8:2  And thou shalt remember all the way which the LORD thy God led thee these forty years in the wilderness, to humble thee, [and] to prove thee, to know what [was] in thine heart, whether thou wouldest keep His commandments, or not.

  

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God will test you and prove you over time.  Everyone that moves into leadership must be proved.  Don't despise being proved, tested or watched.

 

In Review:

1.  What place of priority does family have in your life?  What place should it have?  ___________________________________________________________________________________________________

2.  What is the foundation of the church?  __________________________________________________________________

 

3.  Name some tendencies of a novice?  ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

4.  What usually happens when a novice is put into leadership too quickly?  ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

5.  Do you judge yourself or others as leaders according to their gifts and talents or based upon character?  __________________________________________________________________

6.  Do people accept you as a servant of God?  If not, what do you think hinders them from receiving you as a servant of God?  ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

7.  List several areas where your good works should reflect the character of God in your life to the world.

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8.  What often hides character flaws?  __________________________________________________________________

9.  Complete this sentence.  Quick _________________ almost always leads to self ___________________.

10.  Have you been despising being proved or tested?  Why or why not?  ____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________