LESSON 3

 

Character vs. Personality

 

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The subject we are about to embark on is by far the most important aspect of your Christian experience.  Discipleship will have no real effect on your life if you are not primarily interested in the change of your character. 

 

You can be the most talented person alive but your character is the only thing that really matters.

 

Your flesh will do everything it can to cause you to bypass the development of Christ-like character in your life.  The flesh likes the gifts.  It likes to feel the power of the Holy Spirit.  It likes being slain in the spirit.  They are enjoyable experiences with God.  The flesh can enjoy them.  It cannot however, enjoy what it takes to get character, which is death.  It does not like to die. 

 

We have to die to ourselves so that Christ may live.  There is no increase of the character and nature of Christ in our lives until we first decrease.  We must decrease so that Christ may increase.  This is the process of dying.

 

Character is the central issue of what Jesus is after.  It is the ruling point upon which Jesus said we are to judge whether a person is truly of Him or not.

 

John 13:35  By this shall all [men] know that ye are My disciples, if ye have love one to another.

 

John 15:7-8   If ye abide in Me, and My words abide in you, ye shall ask what ye will, and it shall be done unto you.  Herein is my Father glorified, that ye bear much fruit: so shall ye be my disciples.

 

Jesus says if you have love, they will know you are His disciples.  Then He says that if you bear fruit you will be His disciples.  He ties them together.

 

Most people think the FRUIT  that Jesus was talking about is the works that they do. 

 

This is not true.  The fruit He is speaking of, is the fruit of the Spirit.

 

Gal. 5:22,23  But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance:...

 

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We must remember that in the scriptures there is consistency.  There is a stream that things flow in.  When God uses a symbol in the Bible, it sets a president for how that symbol is used in other parts of the Bible.

 

The fruit is the character of Jesus Himself.  Jesus was saying that the Father is glorified when you bear the character of Christ in your own life and then reproduce it in the lives of others.

 

CHARACTER is who you are in private. It is the underlying

motive for everything you do.

 

PERSONALITY is who you are in public. It's who you want men to see you as.

 

The further character and personality are

apart, the greater the deception in one’s life.

 

Most  of us do not let people see who we really are.  The way we act in public is our personality.  Character is who we are on the inside.  It’s what really drives us to act the way we do. 

 

We act upon what is deep within our hearts.

 

Men commit to personality and

outward appearances. God commits to character and the heart of a man.

 

I Sam. 16:6-7  And it came to pass, when they were come, that he looked on Eliab, and said, Surely the LORD'S anointed [is] before Him.  But the Lord said unto Samuel, Look not on his countenance or on the height of his stature; because I have refused him: for [the Lord seeth] not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the Lord looketh on the heart.         

 

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People are easily impressed by a person with talent or personality, but God is looking at what is really on the inside of a person.

 

God wants to develop a Christlike character in you.

 

In our look at character verses personality, we will be looking at the lives of King Saul and King David.  They represent the classic example of the difference between the two and the consequences of failed character.

 

God sent Samuel to tell King Saul that He had rejected him.  Note what God was looking for in a king.

 

I Sam. 13:14 But now thy kingdom shall not continue: the Lord hath sought Him a man after His own heart, and the Lord hath commanded him [to be] commander over His people, because thou hast not kept that which the LORD commanded thee.

 

God was looking for someone who would think like Him. 

 

Psa. 24:4-5 He that hath clean hands, and a pure heart;  who hath not lifted up his soul unto vanity, nor sworn deceitfully.  He shall receive the blessing from the Lord, and righteousness from the God of his salvation

 

The man who has a pure heart and is submitted to the lordship of Christ shall receive blessings from God.

 

Matt. 5:8 Blessed [are] the pure in heart: for they shall see God.

 

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God is seeking those who will allow Him to develop Jesus' character in them.  His purpose for sending Jesus was not just to forgive you of your sins, but to reproduce Christ in you.

 

II Cor. 3:18 But we all, with open face beholding as in a glass the glory of the Lord, are changed into the same image from glory to glory, even as by the Spirit of the Lord.

 

We are being changed into His very image as we continue to behold Him, stay before Him and pursue Him.  We are being changed from one degree of glory to another.  This is the purpose of God, to change us into the image of Christ.       

 

Col. 1:27   To whom God would make known what [is] the riches of the glory of this mystery among the Gentiles; which is Christ in you, the hope of GLORY.

 

Rom. 8:29  For whom He did foreknow, He also did predestinate to be conformed to the image of His Son...

 

The purpose of God is to develop Christ in you.  God is not looking at talent, aptitude, personality, or stature.  God always judges based upon the heart.  He wants someone who will seek after His heart.

 

God's intention is to so change us that we behave just like Jesus.

 

 

 KING SAUL

 

The old saying goes, ‘Total power corrupts totally.’ 

 

This is only true of the nature of man without the character of Christ.  God desires for you to walk in His power, but His power and authority in the life of a natural man will destroy that man.  Only the character of Christ can handle the power of God.

 

Saul and David are classic examples.

 

I Sam. 8:7-20 And the LORD said unto Samuel, Hearken unto the voice of the people in all that they say unto thee: for they have not rejected thee, but they have rejected me, that I should not reign over them. According to all the works which they have done since the day that I brought them up out of Egypt even unto this day, wherewith they have forsaken me, and served other gods, so do they also unto thee. Now therefore hearken unto their voice: howbeit yet protest solemnly unto them, and shew them the manner of the king that shall reign over them.  And Samuel told all the words of the LORD unto the people that asked of him a king.  And he said, This will be the manner of the king that shall reign over you: He will take your sons, and appoint [them] for himself, for his chariots, and [to be] his horsemen; and [some] shall run before his chariots.  And he will appoint him captains over thousands, and captains over fifties; and  [will set them] to ear his ground, and to reap his harvest, and to make his instruments of war, and instruments of his chariots.  And he will take your daughters [to be] confectionaries, and [to be] cooks, and [to be] bakers. And he will take your fields, and your vineyards, and your oliveyards, [even] the best [of them], and give [them] to his servants. And he will take the tenth of your seed, and of your vineyards, and give to his officers, and to his servants. And he will take your menservants, and your maidservants, and your goodliest young men, and your  asses, and put [them] to his work.  He will take the tenth of your sheep: and ye shall be his servants. And ye shall cry out in that day because of your king which ye shall have chosen you; and the LORD will not hear you in that day.   Nevertheless the people refused to obey the voice of Samuel; and they said, Nay; but we will have a king over us;  That we also may be like all the nations; and that our king may judge us, and go out before us, and fight our battles.

 

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The children of Israel were not satisfied to be ruled by judges, with God Himself as their King.  God gave them a king as they asked, but He also warned them of what that king would do.

 

The man they chose outwardly fitted what they believed a mighty king should look like.  They didn’t even care when God warned them of all the horrible things their new king would do.

 

It is a scary thing to ask God for something, because He just might give it to you.  We must be careful what we ask God for.

 

It is a grave mistake to think that God will not give you what you ask for, just because He doesn’t want you to have it.

 

I Sam. 10:22-24 Therefore they inquired of the LORD further, if the man should yet come thither. And the LORD answered, Behold, he hath hid himself among the stuff.  And they ran and fetched him thence: and when he stood among the people, he was higher than any of the people from his shoulders and upward.  And Samuel said to all the people, See ye him whom the LORD hath chosen, that [there is] none like him among all the people? And all the people shouted, and said, God save the king.

 

God gave the Israelites the king they asked for.  Saul became king.  Saul had impressive physical stature, but he lacked character.

 

This is where the problem began with Saul.  As we peek at Saul’s life, notice his lack of character.

 

I Sam. 13:8-13  And he tarried seven days, according to the set time that Samuel [had appointed]: but Samuel came not to Gilgal; and the people were

scattered from him. And Saul said, Bring hither a burnt offering to me, and peace offerings. And he offered the burnt offering. And it came to pass, that as soon as he had made an end of offering the burnt offering, behold, Samuel came; and Saul went out to meet him, that he might salute him. And Samuel said, What, hast thou done? And Saul said, Because I saw that the people were scattered from me, and [that] thou camest not within the days appointed, and [that] the Philistines gathered themselves together at Michmash; Therefore said I, The Philistines will come down now upon me to Gilgal, and I have not made supplication unto the LORD: I forced myself therefore, and offered a burnt offering.  And Samuel said to Saul, Thou hast done foolishly: thou hast not kept the commandment of the LORD thy God, which he commanded thee: for now would the LORD have established thy kingdom upon Israel for ever.

 

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Saul was scared of losing the people.  He had no right to make the sacrifice.  It went against the commands God had laid down for the manner in which a sacrifice was to be made. 

 

Saul was easily swayed from the commands of God by the pressures of the people.  

 

One of the attributes of a Christlike character is unwavering conviction.

 

This is where so many of us fall short.  We get into situations where we know what the command of God is and yet we begin to be pressured by people to disobey the clear command of God.  If you are not a person of character and conviction to stand firm on what you know is right, you will be swayed by the pressures of people.

Most people are people of preference, not conviction.  When the pressure hits, they are more concerned about what people will think than about what God says and thinks.

 

Saul was this way.  Repeatedly in his life he caved in to the pressures of the people.

 

Saul was a man of preference.

David was a man of conviction.

 

PREFERENCE IS SWAYED BY PRESSURE.

 

CONVICTION IS STRENGTHENED BY PRESSURE.

 

Lets look at one of the most pivotal points in Saul’s life that brought the final judgment of God upon him, setting the course of his life and the action that opened up the door for David.

 

I Sam. 15:2-3, 9 Thus saith the LORD of hosts, I remember [that] which Amalek did to Israel,how he laid wait for him in the way, when he came up from Egypt.   Now go and smite Amalek, and utterly destroy all that they have, and spare them not; but slay both man and woman, infant and suckling, ox and sheep, camel and ass.... But Saul and the people spared Agag, and the best of the sheep, and of the oxen, and of the fatlings, and the lambs, and all [that was] good, and would not utterly destroy them: but every thing [that was] vile and refuse, that they destroyed utterly.

 

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Instead of obeying God’s command to destroy and kill everything, Saul spared the king and kept the best of the spoils.  Saul was so deceived, he thought he had obeyed God even though he kept the best of the spoil and spared the king.

 

I Sam. 15:19-20 Wherefore then didst thou not obey the voice of the LORD, but didst fly upon the spoil, and didst evil in the sight of the LORD?  And Saul said unto Samuel, Yea, I have obeyed the voice of the LORD, and have gone the way which the LORD sent me, and have brought Agag the king of Amalek, and have utterly destroyed the Amalekites.  But the people took of the spoil, sheep and oxen, the chief  of the things which should have been utterly destroyed, to sacrifice unto the LORD thy God in Gilgal.

 

The first thing a person who lacks character will do is blame their mistakes on somebody else.  They fail to take responsibility for their own mistakes.  This is what Saul was trying to do.  He blamed the people when he alone was to blame.

 

Many of us try to make up for what we lack in obedience, with sacrifice. 

Saul continually showed that he was more concerned about what the people wanted than what God wanted.

 

I Sam. 15:30 Then he said, I have sinned: [yet] honour me now, I pray thee, before the elders of my people, and before Israel, and turn again with me, that I may worship the LORD thy God.

 

If you are the kind of person who is bound by what people say about you, you are a Saul kind of person.  You have the heart of Saul.  As long as you are more concerned about what other people say about you, it will cause you to disobey the Word of God

 

Saul was rejected by God.  Saul lost his kingdom because he didn't have the character to handle the power and authority.  Saul went from a nobody to a king in a very short period of time.

 

In Review:

1.  What is character?  ____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

2.  What is personality?  ___________________________________________________________________________________________________

3.  What is the difference between what God and man commit to?  ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

4.  How far apart is your character from your personality?  Is it close to even? ____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

5.  What is the only attribute that can handle the power of God?  ____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

6.  Why did God choose Saul as king over Israel?  _____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

7.  What was Saul swayed (or influenced) by?  _______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

8.  What is the Christlike character influenced by?  ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________